all wear ‘masks’ in everyday life. Some of the reasons for wearing a
mask can be: to cope, to fit in, to protect ourselves, to be acceptable
in our family/social circle, to feel safe, to be loved, to avoid being
hit or scolded or shamed. We have also different types of masks e.g.
angry mask, people-pleaser mask, avoidance mask, happy mask, functional mask.
Each of our masks has 3 layers: false positive (we are “looking good” –
most external); false negative (we “gotta hide” – middle); true self
(this is “pure me” – core). Content-less is the key here. I have a mask
but I am not my mask. I have a story and I am more than my story. I have
thoughts, feelings, history, desire, conflicts, beliefs, habits (good
and bad) and that is not the whole of me.
As we take off our
first layer of masks (false positive) we begin to create the possibility
of intimacy. We begin to show ourselves, beyond the good-looking masks
and into the darker masks: rage, control, prejudice, greed, fear, doubt,
longing (false negative). True Self – here is where we are authentic,
unique, and soulful. Here we are not limited by story nor defined by
life’s experiences, circumstances or other people! In this place where
we are what we are looking for, lies a peacefulness and acceptance of
our Selves, for who we are deeply.
Taking off the mask can be a
very scary process but only then you will be able to re-claim your
authentic, beautiful, unique self and give yourself a change to connect
with other on a deeper level.
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