Value plays an enormously important role in emotional well being. We feel authentic when we are true to our deepest values, numb when we’re indifferent to them, guilt and shame when we violate them, and utter meaninglessness when we lose touch with them.
The significance of value becomes clearer in behavioral language, used as a verb rather than a noun. To value someone or something is to hold that person or thing as important – above and beyond survival considerations – and worthy of appreciation, time, energy, and, if necessary, sacrifice. Valuing enhances the self. We become fuller persons when we love, connect, appreciate, improve, protect; we become more valuable as we create and maintain value.
What is the most important thing about you as a person?
As long as you are true to the most important thing about you, you will feel authentic.