Our inner child – how to connect to it and heal it
Our inner child is still within us. It did not go away with the process of growing up. This is the voice we hear in times when we allow ourselves a bit of freedom and get excited about various things. It is this voice that sometimes asks us how to heal all kinds of emotional wounds from the past…
We often hear about “the need to heal our psyche.” Simply put, you can treat her as a child who is still in us. Our first years of life and experiences that we acquire as children will shape the majority of our personality, our values, emotional balance and self-esteem. However, these early memories can also become full of fears and anxieties casting a shadow on our adulthood. But they can also be only nice and positive memories of a full and happy childhood that accompany us as we become adults.
It is there, in the middle of an extremely well hidden corner of our soul, that our inner child hides. A lot of adults pretends to be mature people, extremely confident. Each of us would like to see ourselves as a well-protected, in massive armour of a great warrior who can easily face the complicated world outside. However, many times after we close our eyes, we realize that something is missing. That something hurts us. Something causes various mental wounds that do not occur outside the body, but inside, in our mind. Inside each of us is a child with different levels of development and unmet needs. It’s time to discover them and give him a helping hand.
The requirements and expectations of our inner child:
It is already clear that it will be important to accept that our own inner child is within us. At this point we come to another important issue – what our inner child can ask us or what we would like to ask him/her. Here are some suggestions: Your inner child may ask you to solve some of his past aspects. You may need to explain some childhood events. Perhaps one of them requires forgiveness or offering it to someone else? However, if you don’t have any emotional problems from the past that still remains unsolved then our inner child requires us a little more fantasy and freedom, so that we are less susceptible to various restrictions in our daily lives. It will be important that you allow yourself to make your reality a little more colourful and attractive. To this end, you need to reject all your fears and stress. Be more spontaneous. Let us have a little more laughter, recover some of the lost innocence and let’s get to know our emotions again. Our inner child also expects love. Let’s love and be loved. Let’s overcome your objections, shame or your gray and colourless image as an adult. Let’s just allow ourselves some emotional freedom.
How to cure our inner child?
The whole process of emotional healing requires full and true conviction of the rightness of our decision. No one can become free if we want to force him to do so. Throw away your mask behind which you are hiding, do not judge yourself or criticize your behaviour. Just lay out everything you have in front of you and promise yourself that you will cure your inner child. You can change your attitude in one day, but it can take longer then that. The ideal situation is that you will be able to say to yourself: “Well, I have suffocated freedom for such and such reasons, but now it’s time to free my inner child.” Thanks to this, you will realize that you have found yourself on the right path, and the target located at its end will provide you with a sufficiently strong motivation to embark on a journey during which you will realize that you have nothing to hide. But first it should be perfectly clear to you that we cannot solve a specific problem unless we first find out that it really exists. For example, think about your everyday life…
Do you constantly struggle with too much stress? Have you lost your hope? Do you feel that your partner does not make you a happy person? Is there any kind of love that you miss and you can’t define? This simple and small exercise, described below, involving visual and emotional reconstruction of events that can help you in many ways:- Take your picture from the time you were a child, e.g. aged 7 or 8- Focus. Let the memories come back to you. In silence and concentration evoke these years from the recesses of memory and feel free. After a while, emotions and images will come to you.- Now imagine yourself with this child. There will be two of you then. You as an “adult” and you as a “child” face to face.- You can now ask him or her what he feels, what he thinks, what she lacks, what he needs. Ask what this child you would like to have or get to feel completely at ease and confident.
Think about this. Without a shadow of a doubt, this exercise can be helpful.