Entries by Jula

What are your core values?

Value plays an enormously important role in emotional well being. We feel authentic when we are true to our deepest values, numb when we’re indifferent to them, guilt and shame when we violate them, and utter meaninglessness when we lose touch with them. The significance of value becomes clearer in behavioral language, used as a […]

Relationships: what generates conflict and what to do about it?

There is no couple who would not argue, but everyone has a way of dealing with the conflict. It turns out that how we deal with such situations tells a lot about the future of the relationship. Dr. John Gottman, one of the best-known therapists in the US, based on his long-term observations on couples […]

Tips for emotional resilience

~ Focus on what you can control, not what’s out of your control: be solution-focused, not problem-focused; ~ Use events as learning experiences, the Chinese symbol for crisis is made up of the two symbols for danger plus opportunity: be flexible and open-minded; ~ Alter your perceptions, don’t try to change others. As Epictetus said […]

The many faces of choice

  Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. So, what choice you will make today?

Over-responsability: are you struggling with it?

When you take responsibility for everyone and everything, wittingly or unwittingly, you throw yourself into a cycle of anxiety, stress, and sometimes depression as well. You feel it’s your fault when other people feel bad? You feel you’re responsible for your parents’ marital conflicts? You feel to blame if your child goes off in a […]

The power that lays in your responses

Look at your life from different perspective 1. Instead of a revolution One of life wisdom says that if you want something new to happen in your life, you also need to do something different than usual. In other words, stop doing the same thing all the time. You do not have to turn your […]

Karma and the laws that are worth implementing in life

For many of us, karma is still somewhat abstract. We like to say karma is coming back, rightly understanding that good or evil sent to the world will always come back to us, sooner or later in some form. Suppose you are always ready to help others. Even in trivial, simple situations: holding the door, […]

Toxic relationships

Toxic relationships have many faces – they pop up in both our personal (parent-child, siblings, friendships) and occupational (supervisor-employee, coworkers) lives. You know the type – you lend a family member money, or a co-worker your car; or you care for their children while they go on vacation hoping they will one day return the […]

Anatomy of fear

Thomas Hobbes said that during his birth, his mother gave birth to twins: him and his fear. Few emotions define us in the same way as fear, which is usually stubborn and recurrent. It not only guarantees our survival, but also destroys many possibilities, like freedom and personal development. Fear can be uncomfortable and paralyzing. […]

Self worth: what is it and how to build it?

Self-worth – what is it? It’s a mental state whose genesis is how we judge ourselves. Our self-worth is a resultant of experiences, upbringing, cultural norms, beliefs about the world and ourselves, a sense of agency or attractiveness. It is the self-worth that determines the quality of life to a large extent. Self-worth, or the […]